A clinical Psychologist with the University of the Philippines and Professor of Psychology in La Consolacion College warns that bullying can lead to depression, especially among girls.
Speaking in her guesting at Radio Veritas Hello Father 911 last February 10, 2020, Ms. Amapola Lustre-Baes defined what bullying is and how it has diverse effects among sexes.
“Unlike with boys who, when bullied, would resort to physical violence such as hitting or punching back their classmate or whoever would bully them,” she explained during the iSpeak: Hear The Youth Speak Episode of the programme’s Monday Edition, “Girls would often take a longer period of recovery due to the emotional effects it would have on them.”
This, she said, is often the unseen part that bullying brings and is more dangerous when left attended as it may lead to depression.
Amapola raised the need for schools to create mechanisms to identify, to support, and to correct bullying among its students while the family should provide the affirmation that the victim needs to recover his/her self esteem.
Professional intervention should be considered especially when withdrawal symptoms–when the victim is starting to isolate one’s self–are already present.
The iSpeak: Hear The Youth Speak is a monthly program of the Diocese of Novaliches Segment in Radio Veritas Hello Father 911 and presents issues commonly faced by the Youth today discussed by Youth themselves.
With the rise of depression and suicide among the Youth, an Associate Professor of Psychology from the Ateneo University recommends focusing on mental wellness instead by beginning with oneself.
“We sometimes forget ourselves. So stop. Tell yourself: sarili mo muna,” said Dr. Nelly Z. Limbadan during a talk she conducted in the University of Santo Tomas on how to address mental health issues.
“Quickly, you first,” she stressed. “Meaning kayo–tignan mo muna sarili mo.”
How to check on one’s self? Dr. Limbadan enumerates and explains the following simple program to manage one’s mental health:
Talk about your feelings. “But you know, talk about your feelings. But don’t talk about it to someone you barely know!”
Keep active. “Regular exercise, walking–yun, walang bayad! I would just advise to get a good pair of walking or running shoes. You just can’t walk effectively with your tsinelas, sasakit din yun later on.”
Eat well! “Please! I am not a nutritionist but I think the advise on ‘go, grow, and glow’ nung bata pa tayo is still true. Have a balanced diet. Everything balanse!”
Drink sensibly! “It’s realistic. Mga pari at madre nga natin minsan nagwa-wine! But ‘wag ka pasaway na beer ng beer every night! If there are occasions that ask you to have fun, go and drink sensibly. But don’t overdo it! Drinking is not a good way to manage your difficult feelings. Some drink kasi para makatulog but after that you get a headache.”
Keep in touch. “Write, call, visit–I don’t know how you spend your Sundays–siyempre busy ang buhay…but spend time with people your love.”
Ask for help. “Even our consecrated persons are not supermen and superwomen. May kanta eh, ‘Superman’, ‘even heroes bleed’. Diba? Ask for help. Ask first.”
Take a break. “Kaya? I am not asking you to travel like outside the Country–but if you have the means, go ahead. Just that take a break from your routine. Eat the food na gustong-gusto mo na you have been deprived of for two months already.”
Do something you are good at! “Part pala yan ng mental health, yang ‘Doing something that you’re good at’? Minsan sa trabaho natin, we are not able to do hobbies, yung mga gusto natin. So bigyan natin ng panahon things that we are good at–kaya gustong-gusto nating magvolunteer.”
Accept who you are. “Accept who you are or (else) you take it out on lies if they ask the wrong people.”
Care for others. “Care for others but don’t overdo it.”
“So you first,” Dr. Limbadan repeated, revealing that, “Remember that the issue of mental health is an issue of wellness.”
“We don’t have to wait for a certain mental issue to arise but we can focus on mental wellness,” she ended.
Her talk was given to hundreds gathered in the venue’s Quadricentennial Pavillion Room A and B during the second day of the 6th Philippine Conference On New Evangelization (PCNE6).
PCNE6 is an annual event to be held until 2021 by the Catholic Bishops Conference of the Philippines Episcopal Commission on New Evangelization in line with the 500th Anniversary of Christianity in the Philippines.
With each year having a theme in line with the nine thrusts for New Evangelization in the Philippines, PCNE6 delved on the Year of the Youth with the theme, “Filipino Youth: Walking With Jesus”. (~Minnie Agdeppa)
A 60-seconder video on the challenges faced by a catechist landed first prize in the recently concluded Diocese of Novaliches Social Communications and Media Ministry (SocComm Nova) 1st Pocketfilm Festival Internal Awards held at the Cathedral Shrine and Parish of the Good Shepherd last June 8, 2019.
Entitled “Beloved. Gifted. Empowered.”, the video presented the realities a Youth encounters in the service of the Church, which is a life full of difficulties amidst the joy of helping others. It emphasized the value of Faith and how a personal relationship with God through Mary can help a Youth servant pass through the “dark nights” of one’s life.
The video is an entry of Group 4 comprised of Mary The Queen Parish’s Jun Magtagnob, Christ The King Parish’s (BF Homes, C.C.) Christopher Sitson, Sto. Nino De Congreso Parish’s Mariel Rubrico, and Corpus Christi Parish’s Arlene Matocinos.
“Through this short film we presented the aspects that heighten depression among the Youth—such as problems in the family–especially for those who serve in the Church like the May Catechists,” said Sitson, the film’s director and video editor.
Depression Management and Suicide Prevention is the main theme of the 1st SocComm Nova Pocketfilm Festival that was launched in the Year of the Youth due to the alarming increase of suicide cases in the Country. The Festival is comprised of two parts, an Internal Awards for attendees of the SocComm Nova Communications Camp aka Media Camp and a Public Awards for non-attendees.
Prior to the Internal Awards, a Seminar on the Basics of Pocketfilming was conducted by international and highly-acclaimed director Sally Bellosillo in Mary The Queen Parish last June 1, 2019 for Media Campers.
Beloved won by .93% over the entry of Group 2 (2nd Prize Winner) whose members were Holy Cross Parish’s Shirly Benedictos and Cherry Brosas, Epiphany of the Lord Parish’s Michelle Bartolo, Christ The King Parish’s (BF Homes, C.C.) Ayrel Selorio III, and St. Joseph The Worker Parish’s (Barracks, C.C.) Macalintal.
It defeated the entries of Group 3 (3rd Prize Winner) composed of Sto. Nino De Congreso Parish’s Marianne Tenorio and Annaliza Bruce, Mabuting Pastol Parish’s Brian Timbal, St. Joseph The Worker Parish’s (Barracks, C.C.) Carlo Cudal, Ascension of Our Lord Parish’s Dhon Hernandez, and St. Paul of the Cross Parish’s Elvira Baldoza; and of Group 1 of Christ The King Parish’s (BF Homes, C.C.) Daniel Abiad, St. Joseph The Worker Parish’s (Barracks, C.C.) Alyssa Estrella, Holy Cross Parish’s Beatrice Bosch, St. Joseph Parish’s Chernole Argote, Mary The Queen Parish’s Rose Gastanes, and San Lorenzo Ruiz Parish’s Joseph Abarado.
Judges for the Internal Awards were Commission on Youth Novaliches (COY Nova) Director Rev. John Harvey Bagos, Basic Ecclesial Communities Novaliches (BEC Nova) Animator Benjamin Custodio, and Commission on Family and Life Novaliches (FLC Nova) Coordinator Wayne Belizar.
Group 4 brought home the Grand Prize of Php10,000.00, which was accumulated from the goodness of donors from various parishes in the Diocese.
The winning entries are expected to be used as material to promote the Pocketfilm Festival Public Awards, which is open to amateur filmmakers and hobbyists, including Year 12 students from schools in the Diocese. (~Minnie Agdeppa)
Here are the Pocketfilm Festival 2019 Internal Awards winning entries: